"Knowledge and understanding is a good starting point in the treatment of this often misunderstood disorder"
Self-reliant:
There are many reasons why a person could end up feeling unable to make it on their own. It's not unusual for a long term anxiety sufferer to find everyday tasks a challenge since his/her mind is most of the time filled with worries. Because of that they may have got used to not dealing with certain situations on their own. S/he may find that s/he doesn't have the energy or the know-how to confront others and may feel that s/he simply doesn't have what it takes to make it on his/her own.
If a person had a difficult childhood and felt neglected, s/he may find him/herself constantly trying to please others in order to be liked. S/he may even fear correcting others even when s/he knows that s/he is correct, as anybody disagreeing with him/her may make him/her feel rejected. Therefore, s/he may just go along with what others tell him/her.
If a person had lived with an anxiety disorder since childhood, then that person as an adult may lack experience in communicating with others, simply because s/he spent most of the time either avoiding people or trying to please everyone. If somebody lacks experience in communicating with others then s/he may feel that others are superior to him/her.
Nobody is born with good communication skills. It is something that needs to be learnt. The best way to learn communication skills is by observing good communicators that we come across. You can learn a lot from them simply by observing how they deal with others. Everyone learns from one another so no one should feel as though there is something wrong with that.
If you feel insecure and inadequate, if you believe other people are more important than you, if you feel other people are guiding your life, than it is not possible to become self-reliant. In order to become self-reliant you need to realise that you are and always have been in charge of your emotions. A great many people have insecurity underneath the strong outlook. You may have simply got used to listening to others for directions. Others may give you directions but only you can decide what direction to take. If we train ourselves to become good at doing things on our own, then we can become comfortable with ourselves and would feel free to enjoy more from life. As we become used to relying on ourselves our confidence in general would blossom.
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